a : a force that brings good fortune or adversity
b : the events or circumstances that operate for or against an individual
: the will or principle or determining cause by which things in general are believed to come to be as they are or events to happen as they do : Destiny
Verbal auxiliary —used to express desire, choice, willingness, consent, or in negative constructions refusal
What happens to you, is it a consequence of luck, fate or your own determination?
For me it is a recurring question that first popped up about 6 years ago. The idea of not being in control of the course of my life completely terrified me. Being tied to a certain destiny could be good or bad, depending on what it’s got for you of course. But what if it’s not the best of the outcomes? Are your hands completely tied on this one? Is there perhaps something you could do to change at least part of it?
A lot of questions, right? But this is the way this issue has been for me, with an always evolving opinion.
Here’s an idea. Your thoughts are made of energy, and Einstein well said that energy equals mass (E=mc^2). Can this mass, if strong enough, change our surrounding or “reality”? In this case, the possibilities are just endless. This hypothesis isn’t new, and it has been preached by many religions, groups and, most recently, by the Noetic science. A so recurrent concept that has prevailed and resurfaced so many times must hold some truth in it, at least in my humble opinion. There is no way to prove this point, but for now I only want you to consider it a possibility.
I’m a doctor, and two years ago I decided I wanted to become a dermatologist. For this to come true I had to take a huge test among 25 thousand doctors, go to interviews and just make everything I could in order to get one out of 4 positions available, directly competing with another 18 doctors. The competition was tough and for eleven months there was no day and no night when I didn’t repeat to myself my wish to become a dermatologist. I already felt so excited about it, almost if it were already a fact. I remember during my interviews being asked “So, what’s your plan B?” I had already thought about it and my answer was “I don’t want to spend my time or energy thinking about other plans and I prefer to direct these forces into studying and focusing in my goal”. I did work hard for it, but because of my job on that time I don’t think I spent enough time studying (although it is probably never enough). One month after the test the results came in right after midnight I got a phone call from one of the professors to tell me I had been accepted. I remember the next couple of weeks waking up and thinking “I made it”. I’ve probably never felt more accomplished.
What happened? Did my wishing alone make it a reality? Or did my thoughts influence my acts and my acts the final outcome? This second hypothesis is a little easier to accept and it’s probably the best lesson I learned after reading “The Magic of Thinking Big” by David Schwartz (precisely during my preparation for the test), a really good and easy to read book first published over 50 years ago. Either way this is difficult to prove, so probably the only way to find out if this works is to try it out.
I am completely convinced that both positive and negative thinking work as a rolling snowball, and all it takes is an initial idea to start this process that will end up in you doing or not doing what you really want to do. Once you have a positive thinking mindset it will be easier for you to look for and take advantages of opportunities that come up, to be always expecting good things and to turn every failure or difficulty into a life lesson and an opportunity to change… to change your luck.
This is how it all starts.